Educate yourself. Plenty of good self-help materials are available for every type of sexual issue. Browse the Internet or your local bookstore, pick out a few resources that apply to you, and use them to help you and your partner become better informed about the problem. If talking directly is too difficult, you and your partner can underline passages that you particularly like and show them to each other.

In the movies, sex always looks great. But if you're like a lot of men, sex may not be as good as you think it could be. You might feel anxiety, concerns about your performance, or even self-consciousness about your body. No matter what the scenario, it just feels like you're not having sex as often as everyone else.

A Few Extra Tips
Being grouchy or ignoring your spouse all during the day hurts your chances of having a positive lovemaking experience that evening.

Remember that sex is not going to be perfect each time. Do not compare your sex life to the ones you see in movies or on television..